The garage was most definitely my husband’s domain. All I had done, for the most part, was park there.
As you know if you’ve read my posts, my husband, Tracy, died in 2014. Then the garage saw much more of me because I had to do “Tracy” things. And, I spent lots more time there as I cleaned it out in preparation for my move this past March. But that certainly wasn’t much fun.
When we lose a spouse, we take on more responsibilities on our property. If you are a guy, it might mean housekeeping duties and some cooking. If you are a lady, it could mean lawn stuff and garage stuff.
I’m sure you can understand why spending time in the garage isn’t high on my list of cool things to do. But – the last few days have been different.
Since moving, I had not settled the garage things because I needed a work bench to store items. A few days ago it started coming together and it put a big smile on my face.
I found a work bench on sale and my neighbor helped me put it together a couple Saturday’s ago. My smile got bigger as I saw my vision of a workspace come to life.
Next, my neighbor put together a shelf and pegboard above the work bench. Boy did it look awesome! I couldn’t wait to unpack bins and boxes now there was a beautiful place with a spot for everything.
The next day I bought small storage bins and various hooks for the pegboard. I put on some music and began organizing and setting up the whole area. It was so much fun that I lost track of time. Why was I feeling so hungry? I laughed at myself and went inside for some food.
For a couple more days I sorted through screws, nails, nuts and washers. I found quite a few things I’m sure only my husband knew what to do with for sure. But going through it all held a strong connection to Tracy. And that was a very good feeling.
I found a great light to install under the shelf and over the workspace. My neighbor installed it for me and presto – so much light! Yes, I was grinning from ear to ear. Taking a few steps back to look at this new workspace thrilled me. This is MY space, My very own work bench area. I’m excited. In my new garage I have found joy after so much sadness.
Would my husband like it? Approve? Well . . . while I’m sure he would tweak it or move a few things around, yes – I think he would approve.
I’m physically tired, but my heart is energized.
There is something great about stepping out on your own and doing something that was squarely in your spouse’s lane, that is so fulfilling. I’m proud I was able to make it all come together.
How about you? What have you done that is not typically in your lane? Have you felt like I did?
Whatever you’ve conquered/done by yourself – – – Congratulations !!!!! (balloons – confetti – noisemakers)
I KNOW how hard it is to move forward & do something that’s NOT in your wheelhouse. So hard.
But you did it !!! I did it !!! We did it !!!
This journey is beyond difficult. Others have no idea how truly tough it is. But we know & can celebrate each other.
So bask in the moment. We totally rock!!
Peace & Blessings………………………and Joy !